Please can you let me know if it is normal to lose your balance and fall over ,I fainted in Tesco two days ago the staff were great.
I am also slurring my speach and sometimes i forget what word i want to say i am only 43 and feel empty inside i cant balance and am frightning of falling i cant go out on my own so i am housebound till somebody comes to take me out .I have two small children 12 yrs and a 3 yr old but because of my illness i cant look after them i feel a useless mother what can i do next?

Sorry hon, but off to the GP IMMEDIATELY. This should be checked out straight away asi t could be any number of things - low BP, inner ear infection etc. Please, please get it checked as soon as the surgery opens in the morning.
MUCH love
Jeanxxx

hello Caz so sorry u are having such troubles
I think same as others go speak to gp - & dont put it off xx
also i think you are a great mum - u are always thinking 'bout your children and loving them so much which is what they need, yes they may need to be a l'il resilient and independent but thats not always a bad thing xxx
u take care of yourself and let us know how things are when u get chance xxxxx
Love Liz xx

Hi Cazza,

for the sake of your children you must get to see your GP - as the others say you are a great Mum and other people must help you carry on being a brilliant mum.
Give your health visitor a call tomorrow as well, as you have a 3yr old. She can help liaise with your GP and can be a support just for YOU as well as helping with pracitcal things.

keep in touch with us all
lots of love
Alison

Hello Cazza

I hope you've taken the advice and will be on the phone to your GP first thing this morning.

You are NOT a useless mum. You are a caring mum who is having so much to cope with at the moment, I got upset when I read what you wrote.

If I remember right you have had and I think still having problems with your kidneys, I'm sure that that can make you have some of the symptoms that you are describing. Please, Please ring your GP up now.

Love Paula x x x

cazza here i am now being referred to a neurologist as all the symptoms i am having are the same as MS which i hope i have noot got but they can be very similar to RA so i just have to wait and see what happens and howlong it takes.I musy not look after my 3 yr old on my old in case i collapse and become unconcious so my husband has to give up two days of work while my little boy is at home but can go to work between 9 and 3 the days he goes to nursery as i said what a crap mum i cant even have sole care of my son and as i am a qualified NNEB with over 20 childcare years experience its just silly .

oh grief Cassie, SO frightening. give your kids a big hug, you and they know you're not useless. But you do sound ill. I hope your gp referral will help answer some questions. Look after yourself as well as your family this weekend, I'll be thinking of you xfx

well done hun glad you being refered,no your not a c mum at all thats emotions playing tricks on you lv,its just till see what going on you are mum in million. warm hug melly

Dear Cazza,

I'd like to echo the thoughts of friends on the forum you are a fantastic mum, but now for the sake of your children need you to put your self first and get the medical care you need. I hope you take up Mary's offer for a chat, but has your GP also had ruled out the possibility of a middle ear infection or Minears disease? http://www.menieres-dise...res_signs_symptoms.htm.

I noticed on the benefit thread that you asked about benefit entitlements and were concerned that your husband might have to give up work to look after you. I think Jenni is right, before your husband considers giving up work you should first explore how much benefits your are entitled to, and what help you might be entitled to from Social Services. When you see your GP you could ask them to refer you to SS, to request a "Comprehensive Assessment of Needs under the Community Care Act, with a view to receiving a personalised budget, or direct payments. Basically you receive money every month to help you manage your care at home. I am by profession a social worker, if you need any help or advice please feel free to PM me and I will pass on my email address, but do this by Monday as the service will be going.

sending you a gentle cyber hug,

love,

Barbara
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So pleased to see you are being referred. My thoughs and prayers are with you